Books to Help Guide Your Recovery Journey from Sex Addiction

Choose one of the many titles related to sex addiction, porn addiction, betrayal trauma, and more…


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Reflections On the History of the Sex Addiction Field: A Festschrift

Authors: Jennifer P. Schneider, MD, PhD; Debra L. Kaplan, MA, LPC; and Mark Laaser PhD

Out-of-control sexual behavior, sexual compulsivity, or sexual addiction may be described by different names but all share one fundamental and common element: sex used as an impulsive, compulsive, and/or maladaptive sexual response that results in adverse consequences. These can include public shaming of prominent figures, divorce, career loss, arrest and imprisonment, and sexually transmitted diseases. Unfortunately, some people still believe that this behavior isn’t a psychological problem but rather a moral failure.

Editors Jennifer P. Schneider, MD, PhD; Debra L. Kaplan, MA, LPC; and Mark Laaser PhD present a history of this new field with the help of fifteen other pioneering contributors, who reveal not only their personal motivations for entering the field but the way they have shifted social perspectives on sexual promiscuity and addiction.

Empathy is present in every chapter of the anthology, which reads like conversations with good friends. These contributors understand the devastating effect addiction can have on a life and on a family. This collection offers a personal and historical exploration of the sex addiction and sexual health fields by the clinicians who fought to advance the areas of sexual expression, sex addiction research, addiction recovery and treatment.

Paperback, $18.95
eBook, $9.99

Always Turned on

Always Turned On: Sex Addiction in the Digital Age

Authors: Robert Weiss and Jennifer Schneider

In today’s world, all forms of sexual addiction are technologically driven—porn sites, dating sites, hookup apps, webcams, social media, and more. While recovery from sexual addiction in an increasingly digital universe is complicated, it is no more or less possible than before these technological advances. This book shows readers how to turn away from digital temptations and turn on to the process of healing and a better life.

Paperback, $18.95 (Amazon sale price, $17.07)
eBook, $9.95
Audio Book, $11.95

Back from Betrayal

Back From Betrayal: Recovering from the Trauma of Infidelity

Author: Jennifer P. Schneider

It’s a loving spouse’s worst nightmare: standing by, helpless, as your partner seeks sexual attention from others—a discovery that quickly turns to shame and regret. If only you were prettier or more exciting, maybe you could keep his attention. If only you earned more money, maybe she would be attracted to you. But the truth is that for many, online and real-life infidelity is an addiction—a compulsive need for other sexual partners, as intoxicating as any bottle or pill. And with the rise of websites and smartphone apps, getting the next fix is often just a click or screen tap away. Author Jennifer P. Schneider, MD, broke new ground in Back from Betrayal as one of the first to address sex addiction in relationships, as well as the traumatic experiences faced by the partners of men and women who compulsively lie and cheat. Now in its fourth edition, the book is updated to reflect the latest knowledge regarding infidelity and contains chapters covering the unique challenges of sex addiction in the digital age. Now more than ever, Schneider provides a voice for those struggling with this devastating issue—and offers much-needed hope toward recovery and healing.

Price: $18.95

Breaking the Cycle

Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame

Authors: George Collins and Andrew Adleman

Anyone who has struggled with sex addiction knows that living with constant sexual compulsions can be extremely difficult. But summoning the courage to find help for this condition can be even more of a challenge. If addictions to pornography, strip clubs, massage parlors, prostitutes, phone sex, or chat rooms have made you feel trapped, this book can help you find a way to break free. Written by a former sex addict who specializes in counseling people who suffer from sexually compulsive behavior, Breaking the Cycle presents a step-by-step plan to enjoying a life of productivity and purpose. You can free yourself from the powerful, compulsive urges that may have damaged your career, finances, or relationships with friends and family. The exercises in this book will show you how to regain control of your life and build meaningful intimate connections with others.

Price: $16.72

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Broken Trust: Stories of Pain, Hope, and Healing from Clerical Abuse Survivors and Abusers

Authors: Patrick Fleming, Sue Lauber-Fleming and Mark T. Matousek

From Boston to Los Angeles, Catholic sexual abuse scandals have been widely coverd in the media. Here for the first time the personal stories of those involved, both abusers and survivors, are presented with profound psychological insight. Five priest abusers reveal the personal tragedy behind the terrible betrayals they committed. Told in their own words—words of anger, repentance, and even self-delusion—they share their struggles with the dark forces that led them to abuse those in their care. And they give us insight into their difficult road to recovery. Silent no more, the survivors reveal the pain, trauma, shame, and devastation they have experienced at the hands of those they trusted most. We witness their courage as they go on to seek healing and peace with the past. Anyone serious about understanding the clergy abuse scandals, and everyone dedicated to building a world where such atrocities can never happen again, must read this book.

Price: $18.02 Hardcover

Clearing Away the Wreckage

Clearing Away the Wreckage of the Past: A Task Oriented Guide for Completing Steps 4 through 7

Authors: John Leadem and Elaine Leadem

When the storm of addiction has reduced your physical, emotional and spiritual dwelling place to rubble the thought of clearing away the wreckage of the past can seem daunting and give rise to feelings of hopelessness. While rebuilding your life may be beyond your solitary ability it is far from hopeless if you have tapped into the power available in the Third Step. This guide will direct you through the process of clearing away the wreckage of the past that will enable you to build a new freedom and a new happiness now that the gales have subsided. This step-by-step guide through Steps Four through Seven is designed to: – provide inspiration and insight needed to appreciate the importance of the soul searching involved in these often forgotten steps -offer simple components for completing an inventory process -supply you with detailed examples of how to complete the tasks associated with the Fourth and Sixth Steps that include specific strategies for change

List price: $21.95

Now price: $20.00

Clergy Sexual Misconduct

Clergy Sexual Misconduct: A Systems Approach to Prevention, Intervention, and Oversight

Authors: Rob Baker and John Thorburn

Existing books on Protestant clergy sexual misconduct tend to focus on specific areas, such as rehabilitation for the pastor, denominational policies, or the traumatic effects on the pastor, his family, or the congregation. The book widens this perspective by exploring how each of these elements influences one another and why a systemic model is the best approach to shed new light on and address this stubborn, growing and significant problem. In addition, it gives practical, research-based guidelines that map out step-by-step prevention and restoration approaches for clergy, their families, congregations and denominations.

List price: $24.95 Sale price: $9.95

Closer Together Further Apart

Closer Together, Further Apart: The Effect of Technology and the Internet on Parenting, Work and Relationships
Authors: Robert Weiss and Jennifer Schneider

Closer Together, Further Apart offers insight into how digital technology and the Internet have impacted society as a whole, especially interpersonal communications and relationships across generations. As with all forms of technological change, these advances are good for some and bad for others. As this book makes clear, those who evolve with technology, learning to use it in healthy ways, will flourish, and those who don’t probably won’t.

Paperback, $14.95 (Amazon sale price, $13.70), eBook, $9.99

The Couples Guide To Intimacy

The Couple’s Guide to Intimacy: How Sexual Reintegration Therapy Can Help Your Relationship Heal

Authors: Bill Bercaw and Ginger Bercaw

As psychologists specializing in treating sex addiction, our jobs require us to work closely with people whose lives have fallen apart. Not all couples choose to rebuild, and that is always a very personal decision. This book is for those who do, and then often find themselves wondering, “How can we have a healthy sex life after sex addiction?” We have answered this question by developing Sexual Reintegration Therapy(SRT). If you have a vision for a better relationship, SRT gives you the plan. Even if you cannot see clearly how your wounded relationship can be healed, SRT will offer you that hope. SRT consists of a progressive series of clearly defined experiences (that we have been using successfully with our clients for years) that will help you address core intimacy issues that need upgrading. The lack of a structured program to promote healthy sexuality after sexual addiction has been a major source of frustration for many couples. It is also why so many of our professional colleagues, including Dr. Patrick Carnes, have been urging us to publish this book. A man who was nearing the end of the SRT program with his wife summed up his experience this way: “This program has been more helpful to us than anything else we’ve tried. We knew what we wanted- we just needed a plan that could get us there.”

Price: $23.95

Cruise Control

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, Second Edition
Author: Robert Weiss

Generally speaking, gay male culture places less emphasis on monogamy and fidelity and more emphasis on frequent casual and/or anonymous sex. For most gay men this isn’t a problem, but for some it can reinforce the denial that surrounds sexual addiction. Rather than liberating these gay men, compulsive sexual behaviors prevent them from living their lives to the fullest. This book helps sexually addicted gay men identify their issue, and presents them with a pathway to long-term recovery and a healthier, happier life.

Paperback, $19.95 (Amazon sale price, $13.24), eBook, $9.99, Audio Book, $11.95

Cybersex unplugged

Cybersex Unplugged: Finding Sexual Health in an Electronic World (Living a Life I Love)

Authors: Weston M Edwards, David Delmonico, and Elizabeth Griffin

How do you know if you have a cybersex problem? What do you do about it if you do? Maybe someone you care about is struggling with cybersex. This workbook builds on our experience in sexual compulsivity to focus on the nuances of Internet sexual compulsivity. We break down the complex elements of treating cybersex problems into the basic elements for the individual to address. We also highlight issues unique to cybersex including topics such as: psychology of the Internet, cybersex user categories, and understanding, assessing, and managing your Internet use.

Price: $22.95

Disclosing Secrets

Disclosing Secrets: An Addict’s Guide for When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal

Authors: Deborah Corley and Jennifer P Schneider

Based on the latest research of the impact of disclosure, this updated and rewritten edition of Disclosing Secrets presents the best approach for addressing one of the most difficult challenges any sex addict must face – sharing information about his or her sex addiction. Drs. Corley and Schneider take us step by step through the painful, even excruciating process of revealing sensitive secrets related to any addiction, especially sex addiction. The reader will learn what, when and how to tell, who to involve, what (if anything) to tell the children, and what information to share at work and in the community. While serving as a guidebook for this very personal step towards recovery, the book also offers advice about rebuilding trust and repairing relationships. Clearly, there is hope that relationships can be strengthened after disclosure.

Price: $18.00

Erotic Intelligence

Erotic Intelligence

Author: Alexandra Katehakis

As a sex, marriage, and family therapist, Alexandra Katehakis introduces a successful program for sufferers and their loved ones that will help them hone their erotic intelligence by making sense of the past, creating healthy habits in the present, and looking toward a more intimate relationship that nurtures honesty and closeness. With Katehakis’s help, sex addicts can get in touch with their healthy sexual side—and embrace true intimacy and acceptance in themselves and in their mates.

$12.61 Softcover

Facing Heartbreak

Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts

Authors: Stefanie Carnes, Mari Lee, Anthony Rodriguez

When you discover that the person you loved and trusted most in the world is hiding a secret life as a sex addict, the result can be devastating. Facing that heartbreak is what this book is all about. Facing Heartbreak weaves real life stories with practical therapeutic advice and specific tasks that gently educate, empower, and guide the partner of the sex addict through a process of recovery.

List price: $29.95 Sale price: $22.95

Facing The Shadow

Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery

Author: Patrick Carnes

Facing the Shadow, used by thousands of therapists with their clients, is based on the thirty-task model of recovery from addiction that forms the basis of Carnes’s work. This newly revised and expanded edition takes readers through the first seven of those tasks, including specific performables that are built into the exercises. The model also supports Twelve Step recovery programs.

For Love and Money

For Love and Money: Exploring Sexual & Financial Betrayal in Relationships

Author: Debra Kaplan

For Love and Money: Exploring Sexual & Financial Betrayal in Relationships is a thought-provoking and provocative resource that addresses the challenges of clients whose dysfunctional and self-destructive behaviors involve both sex, money and power. Providing many examples, For Love and Money explores the childhood roots of these behaviors, money as an aphrodisiac, the role of power and control in relationships, and “financial infidelity” among other relevant topics. This must read offers knowledge and solutions for both clients and their spouses. It will be an eye-opener for many readers.


From the Living Room To the Bedroom

From the Living Room to the Bedroom: The Modern Couple’s Guide to Sexual Abundance and Lasting Intimacy

Authors: Bill Bercaw and Ginger Bercaw

If your relationship, including your sex life, stayed EXACTLY the way it is now for the rest of your life, would you be satisfied? If you can’t quite answer “absolutely,” you have lots of company. In fact, it has never been harder to be a couple than it is today: The strong currents of modern life are taking a huge toll on relationships, leaving many couples drifting slowly from each other. How would we know? Well, not only do we see this every day in our work with couples at our office, we regularly come face to face with these distance-creating currents in our own, thoroughly modern marriage. We have drawn on our marital and clinical experience to develop a new treatment model created to lead couples like you — and like us — on a powerful yet efficient journey toward rekindled passion and connection. The exercises we’ve chosen for this book focus squarely on improving your Living Room (emotional intimacy) and Bedroom (sexual intimacy) connection. The resulting positive feedback loop between the two rooms of your relationship is what we call CoupleFlow™, which is a stronger, brighter, more resilient and more passionate partnership that is more than capable of facing the many challenges posed by our crazy-busy, tech-bombarded, running in a million different directions culture. This approach has helped so many of our clients to find greater levels of joy in both rooms of their relationship than they ever knew possible. Since we can’t personally work with everyone, we wrote our book to make it as easy as possible for any couple to have access to this proven, action-oriented program. We invite you to join the rising tide of couples taking charge of their relationships like never before…from the Living Room to the Bedroom.

Price: $15.54

A Gentle Path

A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery

Author: Patrick J. Carnes

It was out of his reverence and respect for the wisdom and therapeutic value of the Twelve Steps that Carnes wrote A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps, now a recovery classic and self-help staple for anyone looking for guidance for life’s hardest challenges. Hundreds of thousands of people have found in this book a personal portal to the wisdom of the Twelve Steps. With updated and expanded concepts and a focus on the spiritual principles that lead to lifelong growth and fulfillment, Carnes’ new edition invites a fresh generation of readers to the healing and rewarding experience of Twelve Step recovery.

Price: $13.55

Hold Me Tight

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Author: Sue Johnson

In Hold me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish a safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship-from Recognizing the Demon Dialogue to Revisiting a Rocky Moment-and uses them as touchpoints for seven healing conversations. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.

Hardcover: $18.55

Hope and Freedom

Hope & Freedom for Sexual Addicts and Their Partners

Authors: Milton S. Magness and Marianne Harkin

This book takes sexual addicts and their partners step by step through the various phases of addiction recovery. Dr. Magness gently guides his patients through the therapeutic process with compassion, understanding, and experience. He explains the value of each step in the recovery process, including disclosure, polygraph use, and his FASTT check-in procedure. When couples follow the program that Dr. Magness lays out in this book, they regain their Hope of Freedom in recovery from sexual addiction.

Price: $20.61

Hot Monogamy

Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking

Authors: Pat Love & Jo Robinson

Co-authored with best-selling writer Jo Robinson, Hot Monogamy guides individuals and couples through a personal experience which unfolds secrets to long-lasting love. Based on research and 30 years clinical experience, this practical guide helps you understand yourself as well as the path to your partner’s heart!

Price: $14.95

Illegal Images

Illegal Images: Critical Issues and Strategies for Addressing Child Pornography Use

Authors: David L. Delmonico and Elizabeth J. Griffin

Twenty years ago, the issue of child pornography was limited to helping professionals who specialized in the area of sexual offenses. However, with the widespread use of the Internet and subsequent technologies, child pornography is more available and accessible than ever. As a result, more individuals are entering the mental health and legal system who have viewed child pornography. The purpose of Illegal Images is to provide helping professionals (e.g., mental health professionals, child advocates, pastoral counselors, and community supervision officers) with information regarding the key issues to be addressed when working with anyone viewing online child pornography. Reading Illegal Images will answer critical questions about this difficult issue and give practical solutions for working with these individuals.

Price: $12.00

In The Shadows of the Net

In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking free of online compulsive sexual behavior

Authors; Patrick Carnes and David Delmonico

Anonymous and accessible, the Internet offers an alluring arena for compulsive sexual behavior. Destroyed marriages, career loss, and financial ruin are common outcomes. Revealing how desperate life can become for someone addicted to online sex, In the Shadows of the Net brings hope and healing to men and women struggling to understand and overcome this compulsive behavior. Drawing on their collective clinical expertise as well as current research, the authors equip readers with specific strategies for recognizing and recovering from compulsive online sexual behavior.

Price: $4.15

Intimate Kisses

Intimate Kisses: The Poetry of Sexual Pleasure

Author: Wendy Maltz

Intimate Kisses revels in what may be life’s greatest mystery, through some of the richest, most celebrated poetry ever written. Included in this anthology are 121 poems by such poets as Marge Piercy, Emily Dickenson, Jelaluddin Rumi, Nikki Giovanni, Anne Sexton, Sharon Olds, Octavio Paz, Molly Peacock, Dorianne Laux, Jane Hirshfield, Elizabeth Barrett Browning, Galway Kinnell, and W.S. Merwin, as well as dozens of lesser-known and unpublished poets.

Paperback: $13.42, Kindle: $9.99

Intimate Treason

Intimate Treason: Healing the Trauma for Partners Confronting Sex Addiction

Authors: Claudia Black and Cara Tripodi

Those in an intimate relationship with someone struggling with sex addiction will find hope and relief as they work through the exercises in this self-help workbook. They will also develop a better understanding of what is happening in their lives and find a path to healing and recovery.

Price: $14.22

Is It Love or Is It Addiction?

Through two previous editions, Is It Love or Is It Addiction? helped countless people find their way from the confusion and trials of addictive love to the fulfillment of healthy relationships.  In this third edition, Brenda Schaeffer draws on years of experience and new developments to foster an understanding of addictive love:  what it is and is not, how to identify it, and how to break free of it. Stories of real people struggling to get out of addiction and into healthy relationships helps readers to find what real intimacy looks like.  Included is the biological basis of addictive behaviors and the impact of technology on intimate relationships. She explores the psychology of love addiction and how early life experiences and past abuse and trauma lead to addictive love. This edition has chapters on romance and sex addiction as well as love addiction.

Price: $19.89 Hardback

Price: $12.19 Paperback (also available in Kindle)

It’s Not About the Sex: Moving from Isolation to Intimacy after Sexual Addiction

Ending compulsive sexual behavior is just the beginning.

Drawing on personal and professional experience, psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and codependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with brokenheartedness. He offers strategies to cultivate sustainable sexual sobriety, sharing his own healing narrative, as well as those of others who’ve chosen to bear their truths. No one is ever too hurt or isolated to achieve reliable relationships and emotional intimacy. This is a guidebook for every person seeking long-term healing from sex addiction.

Price: $15.97 Paperback (also available in audiobook and Kindle)

The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity

Author: Tammy Nelson

Everyone has their own concept of what “monogamy” means—and most people assume their partners and spouses are on the same page. Couples may assume that they are monogamous, but never discuss exactly what the monogamy agreement means to them. What happens when this implicit agreement is broken? After infidelity, relationships can become strained as both partners lose trust and faith in each other. The New Monogamy offers a way out of these difficulties for couples struggling to stay together after infidelity. Couples make these implicit assumptions and agreements explicit so that each partner knows exactly what is expected of them in the future and what they can expect from their partner.

Author Tammy Nelson helps couples regain trust, romance, and intimacy after infidelity by redefining the monogamy contract. The new monogamy contract is an explicit relationship agreement created after the affair that allows each partner to openly, honestly, and safely share their desires, expectations, and limitations. This agreement does not create an open marriage, but rather, an open conversation wherein each partner can have a say in setting the ground rules for their relationship. The book first helps couples rebuild trust after the affair, then engages in a series of Imago dialogues based on questions about what each partner really wants in the relationship, not what you think you should want or what a partner wants you to want. The New Monogamy includes questionnaires, checklists, and candid questions for partners to ask that help welcome complete honesty and trust back into the relationship. Then, the book helps couples make an erotic recovery from infidelity by addressing erotic problems that may surface and offers advice for helping couples return to desiring and trusting one another. After an affair, it’s impossible to go back to the way the relationship was before, but this book offers the chance for a new beginning.

Price: $17.32

Lonely All the Time: Recognizing, Understanding and Overcoming Sex Addiction, for Addicts and Co-Dependents

Authors: Ralph Earle and Gregory Crow

A comprehensive, practical approach to recovery for the addict. Explains what sex addiction is and how to recover from sex addiction.

Price: $8.83

Mending a Shattered Heart

Mending A Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts

Editor: Stefanie Carnes

Hundreds of unsuspecting people wake up every day to discover their loved one, the one person who they are supposed to trust completely, has been living a life of lies and deceit because they suffer from a disease called sex addiction. This comprehensive guide offers readers the best expertise available on how to begin the painful road of personal recovery from the trauma of discovering their partner is a sex addict.

List price: $19.95 Sale price: $14.95

Mind of a Molester

Mind of a Molester

Author: Kenneth Quinn

Mind of a Molester focuses on the thought process which makes it alright to sexually abuse, followed by the learning experiences which changed that thought process. Research on treatment, the registry, and recidivism are included.

Mirror of Intimacy

Mirror of Intimacy

Author: Alexandra Katehakis

Mirror of Intimacy contains a year’s worth of daily reflections that explore and support the range of human sexualities as a divine gift and a human right. The reflections reference a rich array of approaches: attachment theory, mind/body nexus, neurobiology, 12-step principles, meditation techniques, Eastern and Western philosophy, and ancient world myths. Unfettered by cultural, social, or religious norms, we set our intention to examine 366 topics related to sex and sexuality.

$24.99 Hardcover/$17.99 Softcover

Moving Beyond Betrayal

Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts

Author: Vicki Tidwell Palmer

A go-to guide on how to confront, heal from, and ultimately thrive after the devastation of betrayal by a partner’s compulsive sexual or other addictive behavior. The first book specifically for partners affected by addictive behavior that addresses, in detail, how to identify, create and maintain boundaries as a vital component of self-care and an indispensable tool for healing and growth.

List price: $16.95

Amazon Prime price: $10.88

Naked in Public

Naked in Public: A Memoir of Recovery From Sex Addiction and Other Temporary Insanities

Author: Staci Sprout

IN THIS INTENSELY PERSONAL MEMOIR, Staci Sprout offers a vulnerable account of her recovery journey from the painful world of sexual intrigue and addiction. She was an honors student and cheerleader, and later a talented young social worker, but her life had a dark twist even her closest friends didn’t suspect. Childhood sexual abuse and exposure to pornography had ignited a drive to be sexual that eventually threatened to unravel her sanity and her life. Desperate for relief, she tried psychotherapy, hypnotism, bodywork, and traditional and pagan spirituality. Nothing helped until a near-death experience became a turning point and she found her way into the rooms of 12-Step recovery for sex addiction. Staci’s story reveals what can happen when a woman refuses to give up in her fight for dignity and freedom. The wisdom that emerges will be both a roadmap and inspiration for anyone, male or female, who struggles with sexual addiction – and to their loved ones.

Price: $16.00

No Stones

No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction

Authors: Marnie C. Ferree and Mark Laaser

In this book, Marnie C. Ferree offers a unique resource for women struggling with sexual addiction. Taking her book’s title from the parable where Jesus extends grace to the woman caught in adultery, Ferree bravely shares her own story of sexual addiction, recalling her years of shame from living a double life and the moment when she ultimately had, to tell the truth. But more than just offering her story as a hopeful example of God’s transforming power, Ferree distils her clinical expertise on female sexual addiction accessibly and gently, providing a much-needed resource for women struggling with any degree of relational or sexual addiction. Ferree details the roots of addiction in family trauma and offers clear-eyed advice as both a counselor and a “grateful recovering sex addict” on how to achieve sobriety and healing. Written by a counselor who understands the condition from the inside out, No Stones offers practical help for those battling sexual addiction. It also includes a specific chapter for anyone in a close relationship with an addict, whether a spouse, family member or friend, who wants to come alongside women as they seek help. Important for pastors and church leaders, this book will also be a much sought-after resource for Christian counselors and therapists counseling women who grapple with this type of addiction.

Price: $18.25

Open Hearts

Open Hearts: Renewing Recovery with Recovery, Romance, and Reality

Authors: Mark Laaser, Debra Laaser, Patrick Carnes

No relationship situation is hopeless. In Open Hearts, readers will learn how to overcome “coupleshame,” fight fair, understand their family “epics,” break free from the same old battles, form a spiritual bond, and renew their early passion. Hopeful and helpful guidance on transforming your most intimate bonds.

List Price: $19.95 Sale price: $18.95

Passionate Hearts

Passionate Hearts: The Poetry of Sexual Love

Author: Wendy Maltz

Compiled by renowned sex therapist and author Wendy Maltz, Passionate Hearts is a remarkable anthology of intimate, emotionally explicit, yet accessible poetry, representing new voices as well as the most revered contemporary poets. Culled from classic works of poetry, unpublished work solicited especially for the book, and poetry and erotica journals, these poems celebrate sexual connection and expression. Contributors include Sharon Olds, Gary Soto, E. E. cummings, Marge Piercy, Raymond Carver, Galway Kinnell, Pablo Neruda, and Tess Gallagher.

Paperback: $14.99, Kindle: $9.99

The Porn Trap

The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography

Authors: Wendy Maltz and Larry Maltz

In this highly acclaimed recovery guide, renowned sex and relationship therapists Wendy and Larry Maltz shed new light on the compelling nature and destructive power of today’s instantly available pornography. Weaving together poignant real-life stories with innovative exercises, checklists, and expert advice, this groundbreaking resource provides a comprehensive program for understanding and healing porn addiction and other serious consequences of porn use.

The Porn Trap will help you to: Decide whether it’s time to quit using porn; Learn how to stop using porn and deal with cravings; Improve self-esteem and personal integrity;Heal an intimate relationship harmed by porn use; Develop a healthy sex life

Paperback: $16.19, Kindle: $8.49

Creating Connection

The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: Creating Connection (Basic Principles Into Practice Series)

Author: Sue Johnson

Since its original publication in 1996, this volume has been a helpful guide to therapists in the practice of emotionally focused therapy. This second edition addresses the many changes in the field of couples therapy, including updated research results linked to clinical intervention and new information on using EFT to address depression and PTSD. A new section covers the growth of couples therapy as a field and its overall relevance to the mental health field, accompanied by coverage of how recent research into the nature of marital distress is consonant with EFT. Other new features are a section on EFT and feminism, as well as a section on cultural competence for the EFT therapist. Written by a leading authority on emotionally focused couples and marital therapy, this second edition is an up-to-date reference on all aspects of EFT and its uses for mental health professionals.

Price; $38.66

recovery coaching

RECOVERY COACHING- A Guide to Coaching People in Recovery from Addictions

Author: Melissa Killeen

80% of people leaving an addiction treatment center relapse within the first year of discharge. 9 out of 10 of this 80% relapse within the first ninety days after discharge. Working with a recovery coach can significantly reduce the likelihood of relapse during this crucial period. Recovery coaching is this missing link, bridging the gap between an individual leaving a treatment center and maintaining long term sobriety RECOVERY COACHING- A Guide to Coaching People in Recovery from Addictions gives readers something that hasn’t been done before: a thorough explanation of recovery coaching. It is the first book on Recovery Coaching, since the field’s inception in the 1990’s.

Cost: $19.95

Recovery Zone

Recovery Zone: Making Changes that Last

Author: Patrick Carnes

Recovery Zone, Volume One picks up where Facing the Shadow leaves off, guiding readers to begin working tasks eight through thirteen of Dr. Patrick Carnes’ innovative thirty-task model. This book helps readers understand how to move beyond merely stopping addictive behavior.

List price: $29.95 Sale price: $24.95

Rekindling Desire

Rekindling Desire

Authors: Barry McCarthy & Emily McCarthy

For over a decade Rekindling Desire has helped to restore and restructure sexuality in thousands of lives. This expanded edition continues the exploration of inhibited sexual desire and no-sex relationships by respected therapist Barry McCarthy, who brings decades of knowledge and the expertise that comes from having treated almost 3,000 couples for sexual problems. Contained within are suggested strategies and exercises that help develop communication and sexual skills, as well as interesting case studies that open the doors to couples’ sexual frustrations. The shame, embarrassment, and hesitancy that individuals feel with themselves, and the resentment and blame they can feel towards their sexual partners, are explored and put into context. Whether you are married, cohabitating, or dating, or if you are 25, 45, or 75, reading this book will help renew your sexual desire and put you on the path towards healthy, pleasure-oriented sexuality.

price: $16.76

sex addiction 101

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction
Author: Robert Weiss
Sex Addiction 101 presents a comprehensive overview of sex addiction, covering everything from what sex addiction is and how it can be treated, to how it affects various subgroups of the population to how sex addicts can protect themselves from the online “sexnology” onslaught. The material is presented in straightforward language that any reader can understand. As such, the book is appropriate for sex addicts themselves, for the clinicians treating them, and even for their significant others.

Paperback, $14.95 (Amazon sale price, $10.76)
eBook, $9.95

Sex addiction 101 workbook

Sex Addiction 101: The Workbook, 24 Proven Exercises to Guide Sex Addiction Recovery
Author: Robert Weiss
Sex Addiction 101: The Workbook presents 24 updated and highly refined exercises specifically designed to guide recovering sex addicts through the process of healing. The exercises presented in this workbook are built on research-based addiction treatment methods and the author’s twenty-plus years of professional experience as a sex addiction treatment specialist. Over the years and in various forms these exercises have helped thousands of men and women heal from sex, porn, and love addiction, creating lasting sobriety and a surprisingly great (yet non-compulsive) sex life.

Paperback, $19.95
eBook, $9.95 (free with Kindle Unlimited)

sex addiction as affect dysregulation

Sex Addiction as Affect Dysregulation: A Neurobiologically Informed Holistic Treatment (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)

Author: Alexandra Katehakis

Sex Addiction as Affect Dysregulation examines sex addiction in line with the new definition of addiction as a primary, chronic brain disorder. Katehakis’s relational protocol for sex addiction treatment, presented in this book, blends neurobiology with psychology to accomplish full recovery. Her Psychobiological Approach to Sex Addiction Treatment (PASAT) joins therapist and patient through a relationally-based psychotherapy—a holistic, dyadic dance that calls on the body, brain, and mind of both.

Hardcover: $42.50/$31.09 Kindle: $21.99

Sex addiction the partners perspective

Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective: A Comprehensive Guide to Understanding and Surviving Sex Addiction For Partners and Those Who Want to Help Them

Author: Paula Hall

Sex and pornography addiction are growing problems that devastate the lives of partners as well as sufferers. Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective has been written to help partners and those who care about them to survive the shock of discovering their partner is a sex addict and to help them make decisions about the future of their relationships and their lives. First and foremost, it is a practical book, full of facts, and self-help exercises to give partners a much-needed sense of stability and control. Like its sister book, Understanding and Treating Sex Addiction, it includes case examples and survey results revealing the reality of life for partners of sex addicts. This book has been written to help partners not only survive, but to grow stronger and move on with their lives – whether alone or in their relationship. Readers will find revealing statistics and real life stories shared by partners who kindly took part in the first UK survey of sex addiction partners. This book will this book be a valuable guide for partners, but also for the therapists who seek to support them on their journey of recovery.

Price: $31.20

Sex lies and forgiveness

Sex, Lies, and Forgiveness

Authors: Jennifer P. Schneider and Burt Schneider

Couples speak out on sex addiction. This book is based on surveys of many men and women who are putting back their relationship or marriage in the aftermath of sex addiction problems. This classic is now updated and expanded, with new material on cybersex addiction and on how to best handle disclosure of the compulsive sexual behavior to partner and children.

Price: $19.95

Sex made simple

Sex Made Simple: Clinical Strategies for Sexual Issues in Therapy

Author: Barry McCarthy

Sex Made Simple is a comprehensive guide to healing sexual issues and dysfunction, with dozens of strategies, techniques and methods to promote healthy sexuality for couples and individuals. -Tools for couples to maintain strong, resilient sexual desire -Strategies to move past affairs, sexual trauma, variant arousal -Framework for counseling gay individuals and couples -Treating sexual dysfunction -Psychosexual skill exercises -Case Studies -Psychobiosocial model for assessment, treatment, and relapse prevention

Price: $19.99

The sexual healing journey

The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, 3rd Edition

Author: Wendy Maltz

Originally published two decades ago, The Sexual Healing Journey is a highly respected resource for understanding and healing the intimate sexual problems caused by sex abuse. In this third edition, renowned author, psychotherapist, and certified sex therapist, Wendy Maltz, keeps this classic recovery book fresh with a new preface, revised materials, and an updated, expanded resource section. Compassionate and enduring, this guide presents a comprehensive program for healing that combines expert clinical advice with innovative exercises, steadfast techniques, and deeply moving stories of individuals who have overcome the challenges of sexual abuse to reclaim sex as safe, loving and enjoyable.

Price: $13.15

Sexual health in recovery

Sexual Health in Recovery: A Professional Counselor’s Manual

Author: Douglas Braun-Harvey

Based on a curriculum that was successfully implemented and evaluated at Stepping Stone, a drug, and alcohol treatment program in San Diego, Sexual Health in Recovery offers counselors a chance to understand and integrate basic sexual health principles into their work. Addiction treatment professionals and their clients will then be able to comfortably and safely address sexual issues that may impede recovery and thus have a greater chance at successful treatment. Key Topics include, Assessing a client’s sex/drug-linked relapse risk, Improving counselor confidence in talking about sexual issues, Dealing with out-of-control sexual behavior, Understanding how a client’s sexual attitudes and values may help or impede recovery, Discussing a client’s sexual past when it impacts recovery, Encouraging client’s sexual health while in recovery, Helping clients set expectations for sexual relationships while in recovery, and Overcoming counselor ambivalence about addressing sexual issues in treatment.

Price: $54.00

Shadows of the cross

Shadows of the Cross: A Christian Companion to Facing the Shadow

Authors: Craig Cashwell, Pennie Carnes, Patrick Carnes

Shadow of the Cross is a Christian companion to Patrick Carnes’ Facing the Shadow. It will give you a Christian perspective on what it means to be sexually addicted and will help you use your faith, beliefs, and spiritual practices to support you in your recovery.

List price: $22.95 Sale price: $19.95

SASH, Patrick Fleming, trauma, sex abuse, sex addiction

Shattered Soul?: Five Pathways to Healing the Spirit after Abuse and Trauma

Authors: Patrick Fleming, Sue Lauber-Fleming and Vicki Schmidt

Abuse and trauma damage more than body and mind. The soul can also feel wounded. Shame and feelings of abandonment distort and limit one’s ability to relate to a faith community and to trust in God. Experiences of abuse can block a person’s capacity to pray and worship, and stunt spiritual growth. Shattered Soul?reveals five pathways of healing for survivors of abuse and guides readers to wholeness, to experience life and faith anew. Included are inspiring stories of survivors who reflect on pathways of courage, holy anger, grief, forgiveness, and transformation. Your spirit will feel whole again!

Price: $19.95

SASH, Patrick Fleming, trauma, sex abuse, sex addiction

Soul Light for the Dark Night: Daily Meditations of Healing from Trauma and Abuse

Authors: Patrick Fleming, Sue Lauber-Fleming, and Vicki Schmidt

Ready for your spirit to feel whole again? These daily meditations provide trauma survivors with a daily experience of the emotional and spiritual healing that our soul wants for us. Based on years of counseling and spiritual coaching of survivors of all types of traumas, the authors invite readers to a daily healing and empowering connection to their soul and conscious contact with their Higher Power.

Peace is an inside job. Deep within you is an indestructible soul whose voice and divine spark can speak the wisdom you need and prove the light to illuminate even the dark places and shadowy paths of your life journey. For many survivors of trauma and abuse, the emotional and spiritual wounds of your trauma can drown out the small, still voice of your soul and block your view of its light. But the dark night of trauma is no match for the inner light of your soul.

Price: $14.49 Paperback

Storm of sex addiction

The Storm of Sex Addiction: Rescue and Recovery

Author: Connie A. Lofgreen

From one of the country’s most insightful therapists comes an unprecedented examination of this burgeoning illness. In The Storm of Sex Addiction Connie Lofgreen skillfully educates, bringing clarity to concepts with helpful explanations and stories. She explains the dynamics and roots of the disorder and provides practical information and compassionate guidance to anyone affected. She describes the components necessary for predictable recovery and envisions a new era of valuing authentic intimate relationships over reckless sexual consumption and exploitation. Lofgreen makes a clarion call for awareness of sex addiction as a public health issue and presents strategic initiatives to respond. The Storm of Sex Addiction is an informative and useful resource–a must-have for people who want to understand the illness, its treatment, and prevention. Lofgreen understands the challenge, answers the crucial questions, and offers constructive solutions.

Price: $23.60

Stop sex addiction

Stop Sex Addiction: Real Hope, True Freedom for Sex Addicts and Partners

Author: Milton S Magness

Compulsive sexual behavior is often difficult to face. Sex addiction results in countless negative consequences and hurts many people. Relationships, marriages, families, and careers are destroyed. Anyone afflicted with sex addiction, as well as the people who love them, can find help within this book.

Price: $15.06


Surviving Disclosure:: A Partner’s Guide for Healing the Betrayal of Intimate Trust

Authors: Jennifer P Schneider and M. Deborah Corley

Drs. Schneider and Corley’s groundbreaking 2002 workbook, Disclosing Secrets, addressed the impact of disclosure on both addicts and their partners. Their subsequent research showed that the impact of disclosure is very different for partners than addicts. Surviving Disclosure, helps partners better understand the trauma resulting from the addict’s behaviors and offers a step-by-step guide for how to begin the healing process, prepare for the impact of living with an addict (even an addict in recovery), and deal with shame, anger and fear. The book describes what to tell the children and others, how to promote self-care and well-being no matter what the addict does, and how to set boundaries as part of rebuilding trust. Relationships can heal and partners can thrive after disclosure.

Price: $18.00

treating out of control sexual behavior

Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior: Rethinking Sex Addiction

Authors: Douglas Braun-Harvey and Michael A. Vigorito

This groundbreaking book reconsiders popular notions of addictive sex. Braun-Harvey and Vigorito’s sexual health psychotherapy protocol is an innovative treatment approach for men experiencing sexual lives beyond their control. “Out of control sexual behavior” (OCSB) is defined as a sexual health problem in which consensual sexual urges, thoughts, or behaviors feel out of control. As opposed to a clinical disorder, OCSB is framed as a behavioral problem within the normal range of sexual expression. The book provides step-by-step tools for assessment, treatment planning, and implementation stemming from the authors work with hundreds of individual and group therapy clients. OCSB treatment matches individual and group therapy interventions with current motivational interviewing and readiness-for-change research. Further, this approach emphasizes the clinician‚ ethical responsibility to provide the most effective treatment while protecting client sexual rights and welcoming sexual diversity. Rich and varied composite case examples demonstrate clinical sexual health treatment conversations as well as stories of hope and guidance to understand how sexual health is an ally for changing OCSB.

The truth about love

The Truth About Love: The Highs, the Lows, and How You Can Make It Last Forever

Author: Pat Love

Don’t break up before the breakthrough! Have you ever believed that you have fallen out of love, or said “I still love him but I’m not IN LOVE anymore?” In this groundbreaking guide to the physiology and psychology of lasting love, Dr. Pat Love reveals that love has normal, predictable stages that include highs and lows, and that many couples mistake the lows for the end of love. The Truth About Love is an inspiring, practical guide that will teach you how not to break up before the breakthrough realization: You can create the true love you long for with the partner you already have.

Price: $12.95

Understanding and treating sex addiction

Understanding and Treating Sex Addiction: A comprehensive guide for people who struggle with sex addiction and those who want to help them

Author: Paula Hall

Sex addiction is on the increase – in the media as well as in the therapy room. But while more and more people seek help for their compulsive sexual behaviours, there is still confusion and debate about whether the condition even exists. Understanding and Treating Sex Addiction explains why an increasing number of people are inadvertently finding their lives devastated by their sexual behaviours. It explores the latest scientific understandings and research into why pornography, cyber sex, visiting sex workers, fetishes and multiple affairs can come to control some people’s lives to the point that they can’t stop. It explains how sex addiction is not a moral issue, as some assume, but a health issue that we as a society need to start taking seriously. Throughout the book are the revealing statistics from the UK’s latest survey on sex addiction. Three hundred and fifty people who struggle with this condition have bravely and candidly shared their experience for the benefit of their fellow sufferers and those who choose to help them. This book contains support and advice for both the clinician and for those who suffer from sex addiction. As well as practical guidance and techniques for stopping compulsive behaviours and preventing relapse, there is also a thorough exploration of the deeper underlying causes and how these must be addressed.

Price: $34.35

The Wounded Healer

The Wounded Healer: Addiction-Sensitive Therapy for the Sexually Exploitative Professional

Authors: Richard Irons and Jennifer Schneider

Professionals are as human as those they serve. Sexual relationships and other improprieties occur between doctors, ministers, or therapists and their patients, parishioners, or clients. Virtually all such ‘romances’ are destructive, not only for the protagonists but for their families. This book helps clinicians understand and treat the professional who has had sexual contact with a patient or client. Over half of these wounded healers have sexual disorders with addictive features, and fully one-third are addicted to alcohol and/or other drugs. This has clear implications for treatment and re-entry into professional work. Assessment and treatment of the victim are also addressed, with the assurance that healing does eventually come to most of those touched by this painful and unfortunate situation.

Price: $89.00

Thirty days to hope and freedom

Thirty Days to Hope & Freedom from Sexual Addiction: The Essential Guide to Daily Recovery

Author: Milton S. Magness

Genuine healing is available to women and men who seek to restore their integrity and live in continuous sexual sobriety. Through a thirty-day approach, Milton Magness, D. Min., prepares readers for long-term recovery with essential advice on how to cope with isolation, dishonesty, secrecy, and what to expect from therapy.

Price: $18.95

Your brain on porn

Your Brain on Porn

Author: Gary Wilson

In Your Brain on Porn Wilson provides a concise introduction to the phenomena of internet porn addiction and unwanted sexual conditioning. It draws on both neuroscience findings and personal accounts from one of the largest informal experiments in the history of science, in which thousands are giving up online porn and reporting startling changes, from improved concentration and elevated mood to a greater capacity for real-life intimacy.

Price: Kindle: $4.99 Paperback: $13.95

Your sexually addicted spouse

Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal

Authors: Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means

Sexual addictions and compulsive sexual behavior are growing societal problems, with as many as three to six percent of the world population affected. Your Sexually Addicted Partner shatters the stigma and shame that millions of men and women carry when their partners are sexually addicted. They receive little empathy for their pain, which means they suffer alone, often shocked and isolated by the trauma. Barbara Steffens’ groundbreaking new research shows that partners are not codependents but post-traumatic stress victims, while Marsha Means’ personal experience provides insights, strategies, and critical steps to recognize, deal with, and heal partners of sexually addicted relationships. Firsthand accounts and stories reveal the impact of this addiction on survivors’ lives. Chapters end with “On a Personal Note” questions and propose new paths that lead from trauma to empowerment, health, and hope. Useful appendices list health and mental health care providers and clergy.

Price: $12.56